In reality, couples are perfectly compatible from the moment they meet, fall in love, and finally get married. But why do so many couples, seemingly blissful before marriage and seemingly even more fulfilled afterward, eventually find their feelings fading, even to the point of a breakup? There must be a reason for this.
1. Lack of Mutual Tolerance
Marriage is a skill, but many people don’t know how to manage it. This ultimately leads to the breakdown of their marriage. When a couple encounters conflict, they fail to understand, tolerate, and make peace with each other. Instead, they resort to verbal abuse or even insult each other’s dignity. Such a marriage will eventually break down.
2. Infidelity
A significant cause of marital breakdown is infidelity and lack of self-discipline. If only one spouse does something wrong, such as cheating, the marriage will not last long. Even if they appear indifferent and reconcile, the rift has already begun. It’s safe to say that such a marriage will eventually break down.
3. Infertility After Marriage
Although marriage isn’t about having children, the current climate is still not very tolerant of DINKs, and many still place a high priority on having children. If a couple remains fertile after years of marriage and unable to have children, they inevitably consider ending the marriage and seeking a partner who can provide a lifeline and carry on the family line. Whether male or female, this may lead to divorce because they are unable to fulfill their dreams of having children.
4. Hot and Cold Violence
In a marriage, communication is the bridge between a couple. If a couple is constantly subjected to hot and cold violence, either the silent treatment or physical violence, the marriage will eventually end in separation. No one can tolerate violence from their loved one; whether it’s hot or cold, it’s something they find particularly unacceptable.
5. Mistakes of Principle
No one in the world would tolerate a partner making mistakes of principle, such as daily drug use or gambling. These mistakes of principle can not only completely ruin a person’s life, but also devastate their family fortune, leaving a family destitute. If even one partner develops these two negative habits, the marriage won’t last long.
6. Family Conflict
In fact, many couples enjoy a happy life as lovers, spending most of their time together and leading a harmonious life. However, after marriage, they face more family problems, such as conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and other family conflicts. Many couples struggle to handle these conflicts, which gradually affect their relationship and lead to the breakdown of the marriage.
7. Sexual Harmony
The most unavoidable aspect of a couple’s life together is their sexual life; it is the bond that maintains the marriage and the foundation of its happiness or unhappiness. If a couple’s sexual life is not harmonious, not only will they not be able to satisfy themselves physically, but they will also be unable to satisfy themselves emotionally. Consequently, many couples end up parting ways unhappily due to this disparity in their lives.
8. Excessive disparity in family background
Although the concept of being well-matched is a relatively old-fashioned one, it is indeed very important. Especially when wealthy or powerful families look down on those without wealth and influence, this is a truly tragic development for a marriage. When two people are together, conflicts often arise due to family background, ideologies, and daily interactions, ultimately leading to them becoming strangers.
9. Lack of Love
Many couples, perhaps due to parental interference, marry without affection. Although married and in a marital relationship, a man and a woman lack affection and are unable to tolerate each other when problems and conflicts arise.
10. Parting ways due to business failure
“Husband and wife are like birds of the same forest, but when disaster strikes, they fly away separately.” This phrase is the most apt metaphor for a couple. Indeed, if two people living together are like a couple building a business from the start, one day, all it takes is for their business to fail and become bankrupt, and that’s when they divorce.